Should other people impact your happiness?

Last night, I hung out with a male friend who I have some feelings for and I was under the impression until last night had feelings for me also. I am not sure if I was completely wrong, whether he chalked the feelings down to sexual desire or one of the thought patterns in his mind made him choose to end those feelings for me.

As these thoughts came back to me this morning, I felt a little ashamed at my attempts to give him the opportunity to feel and express love. I also felt ashamed and saddened at the thought that his earlier behavior did not come from a place of tenderness and affection.

Since I have been working on connecting with source, my mind is more prone to protest loudly at negative thoughts. When it did so, I realized how surprising all these thoughts were. I realized that a lot of the pain and suffering we bring upon ourselves is through expecting others to act in certain ways. When they don’t we spend hours dissecting their every word and action. The truth is: it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what they think of you or what thoughts underlie their actions. Because at the end of the day you can rarely change people’s feelings and consequent actions. And you certainly cannot change them without the other person desiring to do so.

What you can change and what does matter is how you feel, think, and act; and whether your those are helping you close your vibrational gap or not.