Choosing to value my time and dreams in a relationship

I wonder why is it that I am minimizing question/talk time with my jaan. I guess it is the realization that I got to spend time on my own goals as well as the realization that I cannot flow which his excitement when I feel mine are not where I want them to be going. In all I think this move is healthy and the guilt levels for a decision like this which was inculcated in my childhood is getting more and more manageable. Eventually it will go away completely. Thank you my dear God for teaching me to love and cherish myself and my time.